I can’t speak for the women, I have never been one, but I know our female companions are more open to asking for help than their “men” are. Why is that? Why can we spend so much time and energy supporting our favorite team and coaches but won’t take steps to improve our own lives by seeking expert training and advice from a professional? Guys will wear sports jerseys to work, paint our faces for Monday Night, and swear allegiance to the coach of our hometown sports team but don’t seek help from a coach to improve areas in our own personal lives. A disproportionate amount of hours are spent being arm-chair quarterbacks and idolizing the very few who do excel in their craft but NO time or effort is spent on improving, or even discovering, our own talents.
We have coaches for EVERYTHING these days, not just sports. Career, business, marriage, nutritional, life, financial, spiritual, even Justin Bieber has a “Hip-Hop Coach” (and it appears to be working well for him). We live in a world where more and more careers are made in some sort of specialty field. Has anyone ever told you about an “Ear, nose, and throat” guy? Well, now there is an Ear guy, a Nose guy, and a Throat guy – specialists with demands on their services for different parts of the body. With all the different advisors, consultants, counselors, and trainers, it’s a wonder why there aren’t more people taking advantage of the expertise that surrounds us all. So why is that?
Here are ten reasons why we men (and some women) don’t seek the help from a Coach:
- We think it’s too expensive,
- We “Know someone” or we’ve “got a guy”
- Free material is available – it’s called Google
- No faith in process, it won’t work for me
- Too busy
- Unaware we need the help – our results are average and we don’t know better
- Lack of spousal support
- Afraid of change, even positive change
I was the same way until 9 months ago when I hired a coach to help me with my business. Now I can truly see the benefits of working with a coach, a specialist that teaches me how to improve me.
A diamond does shine brighter when you buff out the imperfections, even if it is just one of its facets. And our worth will be reflected by it.