Our culture is so material-driven that it keeps many of us in jobs we hate, stressed out to the point that it is unhealthy, and disconnected from our own families. The position of “Stay At Home Mom” has been eliminated in order to achieve the “American Dream”. Why? We have to get a college education, buy a house, and drive a nice car. These are just a few of the lessons we have learned from friends, family, and the very friendly salesman who has a special deal just for YOU.
Yeah, that’s what’s going on all around us. We get out of high school we know we HAVE to:
1) Get an education – the best one student loans $ can buy so we can get the best paying job out of college. You know, the one that will help us pay back the $50,000 in student loans for the great $38,000 a year job.
2) Buy a house – Renting is just throwing away $, right? So we need to buy as soon as we get married. By the way, the house needs to be big enough to start a family someday so we buy the biggest monthly mortgage payment house we can qualify for. It doesn’t matter that electricity, gas heating, and cable is include in many rental agreements, renting something that fits our current needs but allows us to save for a good down-payment would just take too long – we need a house now!
3) Drive a nice car – Anything older than the current President’s term in Office is unacceptable, it could break down at any time and leave us stranded on a busy street with only our cell phones to call for help. And what about the children? The car has to be reliable (the term women use is “safe”), so it has to be new.
Yes, this entire post is DRIPPING with sarcasm. But this IS the message our culture (in general) believes. So we, the average American citizen, are paying $300+ a month in student loan debt, $1,500+ in monthly mortgage payments, and $700+ a month for two “safe” cars. That’s $2,500 a month and it doesn’t include food, lights, gasoline, clothing, home repair, insurance, or even a movie from the RedBox.
It is no wonder that the noble profession of “Stay At Home Mom” is going away – it takes two to make the $ needed to service the American Dream, not live it.